Valentine's Day is a mixed emotion holiday for me. I love it but I hate it. I love it because it's purpose is about showering those you love, but I also hate it because I usually get disappointed. I'm one of those people pleasers and have always done, done, done for other people (ie, boyfriend), but then don't get the same done for me, so that's where the big expectations and big disappointment usually come in. No boyfriend = no disappointments!
Last year I had a great Valentine's Day. Molly went above and beyond to make sure I had a great day, since my Valentine's Day in 2011 totally sucked. She brought me flowers, I got a sweet phone call from one of our Vice Presidents sent by a student, went to dinner with Molly, Jill and Cara and then we went to see Safe Haven. It was a great day. I was worried that since last year was such a good day full of so much fun, my expectations for this year would be too high. No fears, they were not.
One thing that I started doing last year that my friend Laura told me she did was make Valentine's Day about your friends and not just about your significant other, which totally makes sense. (And is easy to do when you're single! ha) So last year I sent a lot of my friends quick texts letting them know I was happy to have them in my life. This year I did the same thing but to even more friends, wishing them a Happy Valentine's Day. Even my fraternity boys got corny messages from me with green and yellow hearts letting them know how much I LOVE being their advisor. The messages I got back from them, and so many other friends were so nice. I didn't set out to get a response, but it was pretty nice to hear back from so many people. I hope I made someone smile that day. :)
That evening there were a group of us that went to happy hour after work and then to the OSU hockey game. It was our "Galentine's Day" outing. At the hockey game there were lots of couples and we got on the jumbotron TWICE! Unfortunately, they did not show me holding my sign that clearly said I was single. Ha. I'm not desperate, but just hopeful there would be a nice Columbus Blue Jacket's player in the stands. ;)
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| top left: Fraternity boys and advisors; top right: my valentine; bottom left: i'm single!; bottom right: hockey fight |
After the hockey game, I went to a 24 hour dance marathon that they fraternity and several other of my students were participating in. I almost signed up to participate myself, but decided not to. I wish I would have, because this was such an awesome event! The visitor hours were supposed to be over at 10:30pm, but we stayed until 1am. It's like the high school dance that never ends! #dreamcometrue The students stayed until 8am the next day. 3 hours was my max.
Saturday Jill and I went to the antique show that was at the state fairgrounds. I didn't find any good antique things (I'm on the search for an old map), but I did find a mask to wear to our mascaraed banquet this April. Now to find the perfect dress!
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| I need a green or blue dress. |
And Saturday evening I went to the George Strait concert! George is such a classic. I love him and his music, even though he played a lot of old stuff that I did not know.
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| top left: emily, me, katherine and jill after the concert; top right: GEORGE; bottom left: me, so happy to be there; bottom right: our view of the stage |
Sunday Molly and I headed to Mam and Papaw's for dinner and to visit with the family for the afternoon. It was a great weekend.
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| my favorite valentine. |
Before Valentine's Day last week, the class that I'm in this semester volunteered at an organization here in town that helps women overcome drug and substance abuse. It's a home where they live, many of them with their children, while they learn to live and deal with life's ups and downs without turning to drugs and alcohol. My class (which is studying volunteer management) worked at the organization's Love Yourself event for the women, where they learned about accessorizing, got their nails and make-up done, learned how to eat healthy, etc. I was a nail painter and there were ladies that came through who said they had never had anyone paint their nails before. For me, I paint mine every few days, usually in a different color to match a certain outfit I'll be wearing, but these women didn't have a normal childhood like I did. Many of them became mom's at an early age or began abusing drugs and alcohol when they were in high school - everything that is the complete opposite of my growing experience. At the end of the event, one of the ladies even stood up and cried during the sharing part at the end of the event about how a classmate of mine had painted these cute daisy's on her nails because no one had ever made her feel that special. #tears!!!!!
At the beginning of the event, a graduate of the program who is now a successful business women in town shared steps on how you can love yourself, instead of depending on someone else to love you. I wish I could find the exact article to share because what she had the women read was so empowering. It was even a great refresher for me, someone who had to learn how to love and take care of myself instead of always letting my happiness depend on someone else. If I ever find this article I will definitely share it because it's a good one.
Valentine's Day this year was my 'singleversary'. I know that's not a word, but I like to make up words. Two years. It's a good thing though - probably the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Two years of me living life. Even though I was very sad at the time of the break-up (and for a while after) the past two years have been about me loving me. I'm happy. I'm soooo happy. Happier than I have every been in my whole life. I have a great job. I have the most wonderful friends. I HAVE FRIENDS. Two years ago I did not have the kind of friendships I have today, let alone so many great friendships. I do things that make me happy and I don't worry about if it's making someone else happy (I mean, I'm not going to do anything to make someone unhappy on purpose!!). I do want to someday have someone that makes me happy, but I know I don't have to have that someone. I'm content on my own, but if Mr. Wonderful comes walking through my door tomorrow, I won't shut it. :)
I hope everyone had a great Valentine's Day as well. I am extremely blessed with wonderful people in my life to love each day.